"Ken Singer uses his decades of experience working with both victims and perpetrators of male sexual victimization to create a cogent description of the relationship that develops between abuser and victim. He then describes how a victim can move beyond his victimizer's hold on him. Additionally, he explains the effect of trauma on the brain in a way that will help survivors and their loved ones understand the frightening aftermath of sexual abuse for men. It is a welcome addition to the growing literature in this area."
-- Richard Gartner, Author of Beyond Betrayal: Taking Charge of Your Life After Boyhood Sexual Abuse and past president of Male Survivor

"I’m not surprised that Ken Singer has created a book that is smart, helpful, compassionate, and innovative. The author possesses all of these qualities. This book is a product of his long career working with both survivors and offenders, combining caring with toughness. Survivors, and those who care about them, will benefit from (and be challenged by) his understanding of the dynamics of abuse and his deeply human approach to “moving on” in recovery."
-- Mike Lew, author of Victims No Longer and Leaping upon the Mountains

"Singer's book is well-developed, well-written, comprehensive, and both informative and practical. Not only covering a wide and important range of information pertinent to male (and to a lesser degree, female) survivors of sexual abuse, as well as their families, Singer also helps survivors and their families to understand types of sexual offenders, the motivations that may prompt perpetrators to engage in sexually abusive behavior, and types of offense-specific treatment. Singer also moves from information and education to increasingly practical ideas for self-understanding, self-help, and seeking help and support from others.

Of significance, Singer has written a fair, even-handed, and sensible book that writes directly to the survivors of sexual abuse in clear, well-phrased, and plain English, presenting ideas in a sensitive and reasonable manner without hyperbole or understatement. This is not an academic book, and is not intended to be, and that is one of its strengths; nevertheless, the book will be useful for students and practitioners alike who work with or wish to work with both sexual abuse survivors and the perpetrators of such behavior. In drawing upon his considerable experience working with both survivors and perpetrators of sexually abusive behavior, Singer also knowledgeably draws upon the literature of both fields, integrating them seamlessly and easily in this practical, comprehensive, well-written, and interesting book. This is truly a Survivor's Handbook, of equal value and interest to male and female survivors of sexual abuse, their families and supporters, and those who provide assessment and treatment to the victims of sexual abuse."
--Phil Rich, author of Stages of Accomplishments - Clinician's Manual and Client Workbooks